How To Approach A Girl: Learn How To Overcome The Fears

Many guys are single because they don’t know how to approach the girl they love. They become speechless anytime they see this particular person. For others, they can relate but can’t pour their feelings on her. This article is for those who don’t know how to  approach a girl they want, and for the experts, you can update yourself with this article.

One can use many ways to overcome the fear of approaching the girl he loves, and we’ll talk about the major one. I have been using this strategy , and I believe it will help you too. This post is suitable for all those who are still strugglling to approach their crush. These mentalities can be used for both day and night games.

Um! She Doesn’t Know Me.

Think about it; she doesn’t even know you. She owes you nothing. That might not help you much. However, there is another aspect of this. Most boys are eager to get close because they fear rejection.

If you approach a girl, the worst thing that can happen is that you feel a cold vibe or that they utterly reject you. Don’t worry; there are many other girls out there.

Self Examination: what is the basis of your rejection?

  • Your clothes? Well, buy great things, read fashion blogs, or get a friend who knows fashion.
  • Your appearance? Could be. Try to see your best. Go to the gym and cut your hair.
  • Is your opening not calibrated? In this case, you need to improve.

I know many handsome guys who are rejected when they approach a girl. It seems crucial, but not so much. I also see many ugly guys meeting a their crush successfully.

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 It focuses not only on what to say; but also on posture, body language, tonality, and general calibration. You will never be useful if you don’t practice, and you fail.

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How can she reject “you” if she don’t know you? Your rejection is based only on a small sample of “you.” She does’nt know her redeeming qualities. Any refusal she gives you right after a meeting can be superficial.

You could serve the best-qualified sandwich on the planet, but if she don’t like pickles.

She doesn’t know who you are, how you are, what you do, or who your friends are. She doesn’t know anything, so don’t take rejections personally.

This mentality says: “Calm down, you’re just putting a sample of yourself, not enough for her to judge you properly.”

Approach The Girl: Forget About rejection

What is the worst thing that can happen when you approach a girl? They may reject you from time to time. I don’t know, well, but I’m always successful in a approaching a girl.  I have been doing it for years; nor have I heard many horror stories.

The disadvantages of approaching a woman are minimal. So focus on the benefits:

  • You build more momentum
  • You meet a great girl
  • Add a benchmark and improve, which will help you in the future

In other words,

“You don’t know this girl. If you get close to her, you might get to know her better. She could reject you, but if you don’t get close to her, you’ll never know.”

If you don’t approach, there is almost a 100% chance that you will never know her. The only exception to this is, if she already likes you and will be showing signs she wants to be your girlfriend. However, that rarely happens.

Know Her Conditions: Take It Easy

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We are focusing on how to approach new girl, but this mentality is also useful for the girls in your area want to ask out (because you still don’t know her or have urgent concerns). Many kids blame themselves for interactions that don’t go the right way. Sometimes, it’s your fault. 

In some cases, it is the girl or her circumstances that ruin things. Rejection is in her, not in you. There was no way to prepare or deal with some things.

For example:

  • Her friend has just passed away, this has happened to me!
  • She is having a stormy night
  • She has just begun her period
  • Her boyfriend is near or just break up with her
  • Not in the mood
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Or maybe it’s something so urgent that you can’t bother to talk as if you need to do a dump; that has also happened to me.

None of this is your fault. You don’t know the girl, so there’s no way you can know any of these things. Even if you knew, what could you do about it? 

You get to know her. The best thing that can happen is to fuck her. It’s worth finding out, but if the interaction fails, it’s probably not your fault.

Lonely parties suck

This mentality works for everyone, including advanced men who suffer from what I call “laziness of approach,” that is, they don’t approach because they become lazy and don’t care. I know many seducers who experience this, including myself.

Although it is not as brutal as approach anxiety, it can be equally detrimental to its results. However, the mentality I am about to present works equally well to manage the fear of approaching.

“The fear of approaching a girl is painful, but the fear of getting lost is worse.”

Please think about your fear of approaching the girl you like. It doesn’t feel perfect. However, there is something even less fun than being rejected: having a party for yourself.

Think of that sexy girl that you could have hit, but you didn’t because you didn’t get close.

Mentalities To Overcome The Fear Of Approaching A Girl

Well, here you are, alone, touching yourself. Each hit is a knife that penetrates your ego. If you have not tried to masturbate after a session on the field, try it.

 Especially after the night game, it can be excruciating. The next time you are in the area and are afraid to approach, remember an even greater fear: the fear of not making the first approach.

Final Thought: How To Approach A Girl

Rethink your fear of approaching and fear of not approaching. Keep in mind that your mind will trick you into rationalizing why you don’t need a girl. Once you get home, you will quickly realize that these rationalizations were not based on reality, and you will be more careful when listening to your subconscious the next time you leave.

GATA – Get After That Ass – as they used to say in the old collection forums in the past.

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