How To Tell Him You Love Him For The First Time

Hey girl! You have seen this handsome guy in your area and maybe wondered, Um! should I tell him I love him? Wait, clear that old picture about girls doesn’t propose to a guy from your mind.

If you love him, why not confess it out as well. It depends on how and when you tell him I love you, so there is nothing wrong with that.

However, before taking all the courage to propose to him, I want you to consider the following points.

Consider Your Definition Of love First

So think about what does the word love means to you. Now for most women, when I ask their definition of love, they tell me. I know, and I feel it. So I usually follow up with this question. When that feeling occurs, how much do you know about the guy?

For example, can you name five things you don’t like about him? Because I can tell you when I see true love, say in married couples or those that have been together for years, she finds it easy to find five things she doesn’t like about him.

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 I’d recommend you base your definition on how well you know him and how much you know him. So if you’re going to say, “I love you,” and you can’t name at least a good number of things you don’t like about him, you might want to consider whether it could be the rose-colored glasses talking and maybe dial it back for a couple of months.

Make Him Work For It, Don’t Rush To Pull The Trigger

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I’ve always found it odd how we have this culture where women get told to make a guy work for s*x and value their bodies. But I’ve rarely heard anyone tell women to make him work for your love and to value something much more important – your heart.

Because if you have s*x with a guy and he leaves, that sucks. Especially if you liked him, but it’s not that crippling. That’s essentially what a booty call is.

But if you love someone and he leaves, that takes months to get over and hurts you a hell of a lot more in the meantime. Never forget that your love as a woman is the most valuable gift you can ever give to a man. So I say forget s*x and make him work for you in every sense of the word. Please don’t give it away to every guy you’ve known for only a few months.

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Pick Your Moment.

So if you’ve decided he’s the right guy and you want to say it, do it in a private, safe space where you won’t be interrupted. You know, make sure neither of you has anywhere to be, and you’re both feeling fairly open and vulnerable with one another. How can you tell if the guy likes you and feels the same attraction towards you?

Avoid The Three “Don’ts.”

Look, there are not many hard rules when saying, “I love you,” but this is one of mine. Don’t say it for the first time when you’re either drunk, having s*x, or have known him for less than three months. You want it to be genuine, and s*x or alcohol means it’s not going to be as much. And look, as we spoke about earlier, you want to know a lot about him and make him work for it.

So unless he’s a friend that you knew years before dating him, I think that’s something you’re better off saving to make sure he’s a man worthy of it.

Avoid Repeating Yourself.

If you decide to say it and put your heart out there, there’s always a small chance it may not be reciprocated. And look, that’s cool. It doesn’t mean crisis stations. 

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Judith A. Kelly is a relationship expert who, for more than 6 years, has counseled individuals and couples on how to have successful relationships. Judith has appeared as a guest expert on many online publications.

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