Many guys are single because they are afraid to approach the woman they love. They become speechless anytime they see this particular person. For others, they can relate but can pour their feelings on her. This article is for those who can’t approach the girl they want and for the experts, you can update yourself with this article.
There are many ways one can use to overcome the fear of approaching the woman he loves and we’ll talk about the major one. This worked for me, and I hope it will work the same for you as well. This publication is suitable for all those who still struggle to approach women. These mentalities can be used for both day and night games.
She doesn’t know you
Think about it, she doesn’t even know you. She owes you nothing. That might not help you much. However, there is another aspect of this. Most boys are eager to get close because they fear rejection.
If you approach a girl, the worst thing that can happen is that you feel a cold vibe or that they utterly reject you. Don’t worry, there are many other girls out there.
But ask yourself this: what is the basis of your rejection?
- Your clothes? Well, go buy great things, read fashion blogs, or get a friend who knows fashion.
- Your appearance? Could be. Try to see your best. Go to the gym and cut your hair.
- Your environment? Maybe. Some nights, your environment will be better than others.
- Is your opening not calibrated? In this case, you just need to improve.
I know many handsome guys who are rejected when they approach cold. It seems important, but not so much. I also see many ugly guys approaching the cold successfully. Read some publications on how to open well. Not only focus on what to say, but also on things like posture, body language, tonality, and general calibration. You will never be good if you don’t practice, and you fail.
How can you reject “you” if you don’t know him? Your rejection is based only on a small sample of “you.” She does not know her redeeming qualities. Any rejection she gives him right after a meeting you can only be superficial.
You could serve the best-qualified sandwich on the planet, but if you don’t like pickles…
She doesn’t know who you are, how you are, what you do, or who your friends are. She doesn’t know anything, so don’t take rejections personally.
This mentality says: “Calm down, you’re just putting a sample of yourself, not enough for her to judge you properly.”
The worst-case scenario when approaching women.
What is the worst thing that can happen when you approach a woman? They may reject you. From time to time. I have never gotten into trouble as a result of the approach to the cold, and I have been doing it for years. Nor have I heard many horror stories.
The disadvantages of approaching a woman are minimal. So focus on the benefits:
- You build more momentum
- You meet a great girl
- Add a benchmark and improve, which will help you in the future
In other words,
“You don’t know this girl. If you get close to her, you might get to know her. She could reject you, but if you don’t get close to her, you’ll never know.”
If you do not approach, there is almost a 100% chance that you will never know her. The only exception to this is if someone presents it to you or if the universe is good to you, and she approaches you. However, that rarely happens.
You don’t know her or her situation
This article focuses on approaching new women, but this mentality is also useful for the girls you meet and want to ask out (because you still don’t really know her or if she has urgent concerns). Many kids blame themselves for interactions that don’t go the right way. Sometimes, it’s your fault. It often is not.
In some cases, it is the girl or her circumstances that ruin things. Rejection is in her, not in you. There was no way to prepare or deal with some things.
- Her friend has just died, this has happened to me!
- She is having a bad night
- She has just begun her period
- She is a bitch
- Her boyfriend is near
- She has just been abandoned
Or maybe it’s something so urgent that you can’t bother to talk as if you really need to do a dump, that has also happened to me
None of this is your fault. You don’t know her, so there’s no way you can know any of these things. Even if you knew, what could you do about it? Again, what is the worst that could happen if you get close? You get to know her. The best thing that can happen is to fuck her. It’s worth finding out, but if the interaction fails, it’s probably not your fault.
Lonely parties suck
This mentality works for everyone, including advanced men who suffer from what I call “laziness of approach,” that is, they don’t approach because they become lazy and just don’t care. I know many seducers who experience this, including myself.
Although it is not as brutal as approach anxiety, it can be equally detrimental to its results. However, the mentality I am about to present works equally well to manage the fear of approaching.
“The fear of approaching women is painful, but the fear of getting lost is worse.”
I want you to think about your fear of approaching women. It doesn’t feel very good. However, there is something even less fun than being rejected: having a party for yourself.
Think of that sexy girl that you could have hit, but you didn’t because you didn’t get close. Hot tits, hot ass, pretty face, perfect figure, warm and tender vagina. She also looked great.
Mentalities to overcome the fear of approaching women
Well, here you are, alone, touching yourself. Each hit is a knife that penetrates your ego. If you have not tried to masturbate after a session on the field, try it. Especially after the night game, it can be excruciating. The next time you are in the area and are afraid to approach, remember an even greater fear: the fear of not approaching.
Rethink your fear of approaching and fear of not approaching you.
Keep in mind that your mind will trick you into rationalizing why you don’t want a woman. Once you get home, you will quickly realize that these rationalizations were not based on reality, and you will be more careful when listening to your subconscious the next time you leave.
GATA – Get After That Ass – as they used to say in the old collection forums in the past.
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