How To Give A Hickey To Your Girlfriend

In this article, you will learn how to give a hickey to your girlfriend step by step. Giving a hickey is a fun part of romance, especially when you guys are making out.

Before writing this guide on giving a hickey, I tried practicing it with my girlfriend, and she enjoyed it.

However, not all ladies enjoy having a hickey on their skin. When I told my girl about this hickey thing, she was slightly confused because it was her first time hearing such a word.

So if this is your first time hearing this word too, don’t worry. You find out what this hickey is all about and give a perfect hickey to your partner.

A girl may show signs that she’s interested in you, go out for a date, make love, and what’s next? Giving her a hickey?

There are some romantic stages to pass through to give the perfect love mark known as a hickey.

You don’t have to go to her straight away: “Hey babe, I want to give you a hickey.” It sounds hilarious.

Well, if you’re ready to learn how to give a hickey, let’s dive right into our topic. But, first, we need to understand what a hickey is like I said earlier on.

What is a hickey?

A hickey is a dark red or purple mark on your skin caused by intense suction. According to Wikipedia, a hickey is a bruise-like mark caused by kissing or sucking the skin, usually on the neck or arm.

Hickies are just broken blood vessels caused by sucking, which results in a bruise. This blood is generally dark red at first, but it turns to a darker purple or brown color once it dries out.

A hickey is also known as a love bite or kiss mark. It is a romantic way to tell your partner that they are yours by making a mark on them. Hickey tends to happen while you’re not paying attention; within a few times of passion, your partner can leave you with a big purple mark on your skin by sucking like a vampire.

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Sometimes, your bruise’s size may vary depending on how many capillaries were affected and how long the blood pooled before clothing.

How To Give A Hickey | Why Do You Want To Do That?

how to give a hickey to your girlfriend

Everyone has a reason for giving or receiving a hickey. Hickey or love bite is like branding.

Giving your girlfriend a hickey or a kiss mark tells the world that she has someone, or to tell other guys that this girl is taken. It is generally a mark of affection during the moment of heat.

As I said, everyone has different opinions concerning giving or receiving a hickey; others see it as an immature thing to do to your girlfriend, whiles some also love it as a beautiful gesture that shows they’re desired too.

So, whatever reason you want to give a hickey, go for it if your girlfriend feels ok about it.
My girlfriend sees me as a vampire because I always leave a mark on her skin whenever we make out sometimes.

Steps by steps: how to give a hickey to your girlfriend

Follow these steps to give a perfect hickey to your girlfriend:

Ask for her permission first.

how to give a hickey to your girlfriend

Not all girls like to have a mark on their skin, so first ask for her permission before you proceed to give her a hickey. Ask her flirty questions to get into her when making out.

Hickey is a mark on the skin, which sometimes feels a little more embarrassing when caught by friends, colleagues, and parents.

Hickey is not a romantic word to whisper into your girlfriend’s ears, so kindly tell her your intention to see how she responds. If she’s ok with it, go ahead and make the passion.

Again, ask her where she would love to have the hickey appear. At times, visible hickeys tend to be a little shameful when caught by friends; and some friends will go the extra mile to ask for its cause, how it happens, and the like.

Let her decide the perfect spot she would like to have the hickey. It can be the neck, shoulder, on top of her breast, or any soft light skin.

Light up the mood of passion before giving the hickey

how to give a hickey to your girlfriend

Since your girlfriend has agreed to receive the hickey doesn’t mean you should dive directly onto her skin and suck like a vampire. You need to build up the tension, soak yourselves in the mood and spend some time kissing.

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Target your spot and place your lips on the skin

how to give a hickey to your girlfriend

Gently part your lips and place them onto the spot where your girlfriend wants to have the hickey. To do this, try making the letter ‘O’ with your lips and firmly place it on her skin.

Doing this will make a good seal without leaving any gaps for the air to escape. Don’t try to be too hard on her, keep your mouth soft as possible and inviting to let her feel the romance.

Gently suck her skin to give a hickey.

Now, it’s time to make that mark on her skin. The idea is to break the blood capillaries just beneath the skin.

Therefore, start with a light kiss, then gently suck on the spot, and dive harder into more persistent sucking for about 20 to 30 seconds around the same spot to make a mark.

If she feels the pain and tells you to stop, don’t hesitate on it at all. Or you can suck the skin for 10 seconds intervals to let her get rid of the pains.

Always remember to keep your teeth out of the way while giving a love bite’ you’re not a vampire. Also, try to control the amount of saliva in your mouth. You don’t want to be leaving a spooky drip of saliva on her skin as you give a hickey.

Always end the process with a warm, gentle kiss.

The process of sucking on her skin may feel a little more painful. So, when you’re done sucking, always try laying a few gentle, warm and tender kisses on the spot to make her feel more sensitive.

Wait for a while to see the hickey.

Well done! You have entirely given your love mark to your girlfriend. It would take about 5 to 10 minutes to see the light pink to a dark purple bruise on her skin if you did all the steps outlined correctly.

If your girlfriend desired to make it darker, repeat the process on the same spot or move onto another area if requested.

Final thought on how to give a hickey to your girlfriend.

Remember, it’s not everyone that likes to have a hickey on their skin, so always ask for permission before giving the mark. Hickey is not a bad thing to do, it’s just a bruise on the skin, and it will soon disappear.

Hickeys tend to last for about one to two weeks depending on the harshness of the suction and the skin of the person affected; the more extreme the hickey, the longer it’ll stick around.

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Does giving a hickey hurt?

It actually hurts a little. While some people enjoy giving or getting hickeys, other people may find them painful.

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Do hickeys feel good?

Hickeys don’t always feel good to everybody. It has become the fantasy of love that shows how deep you love a partner. Sometimes, it’s a bit of shame in front of friends or colleagues.

Where can you give a hickey to your girlfriend?

The very first thing is to ask her where she wants to receive the hickey. Mostly, the neck is a preferred spot for giving a hickey to your girlfriend. However, if she doesn’t want it to appear openly, try giving it on her shoulder, on top of her breast, or her upper thigh.


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